I’m thinking bottom feeder debt collector trying to trick you into paying a debt that wasn’t yours

Have you looked up the lawyer online to see if they are even actually a lawyer? If so what type of lawyer? We did this with the mess of two weeks ago (ahhh the wonder silence since then) and discovered the “lawyer” that called the broker wasn’t even that type of lawyer he was a job counseling lawyer and not trained in financial matters at all. It also appears he didn’t even make the call that some one else did and just used his name as a scare tactic. So Sorry Charlie it failed. I don’t’ scare that easily. So google the guy, make sure he’s a real estate loan lawyer that works with the FHA.
First of all to be appointed as an executor there is a legal procedure to follow. One that you would have to notified of. You cannot be made or forced to be an executor if you don’t want to be. Trust me there is a lot of work involved in being one you’d never dream of. If you were never legally appointed the executor either by the court or the government (ie: ss will appoint executors where ss money is concerned if it has been put into savings and the person dies intestate) and you did not sign any paperwork for either the property or the funeral you cannot be legally billed or even contacted for those debts. This is due to privacy laws.
Did you pay the funeral home bill? Was it paid in full by anyone. Is this the one the niece paid? Because I’m thinking some bean counter for the funeral home went through old records and saw a note that you’d pay the bill if the family didn’t and never followed up to see it was paid. If it’s the bill you mentioned last week, then that’s how they got your name and address and they are looking for a sucker to pay this other debt. At some point the funeral home may have filed a lien against the property and if such a note was in the file then they thought “ahhh haaa a victim”. They don’t know you very well do they? Please remember that just because your friend is the owner of the funeral home it doesn’t mean they handle the books. Many companies hire their bookkeeping out. And if they are still working on getting your refund to you the “lawyer” may be trying to grab that check, which he has NO right to. If the niece did just pay off the funeral home bill and the funeral home still has a lien against the property then the funeral home simply needs to release the lien.
Anyway, if the funeral home has a lien against the house and the house is now legally in foreclosure the mortgage people are trying to get as many of the other liens off the property as possible so they get more of the money from the sale of the house. In order to do this they have to notify all parties that might have a vested interested in the property.
Another thing to consider is you said it was your dh’s family’s property, they may be going through all possible heirs to avoid legal complications from generations to come. Have any of the other family members received a similar notice?
Long and short of it this should not affect the disability in any way. It’s not income, it’s a bill. It’s not your debt and even if it was debt has nothing to do with getting disability. If it did almost everyone on disability would be kicked off. You can’t be made executor without your permission. There is a legal proceeding to being appointed one and you would have to agree to it. So chill, it will work out.